“We're more of the love, blood, and rhetoric school. Well, we can do you blood and love without the rhetoric, and we can do you blood and rhetoric without the love, and we can do you all three concurrent or consecutive. But we can't give you love and rhetoric without the blood. Blood is compulsory. They're all blood, you see.”? Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead
Have the Halloween Train tomorrow regretting my choice of costume as it will be 86 degrees tomorrow. A party tomorrow night. Having an outlet fixed Sunday that is getting alarmingly hot (breaker is off) and then my BIL&SIL Harry Potter themed anniversary party Sunday night.
@kazzy I agree "yes but..." is different and probably a lot of the time is game playing, liking the attention but to lazy, self absorbed whatever to follow thru not to BSDI but men do this as well so maybe its just a facet of being human.
However I think some of those response come from the same ?? problematic conditioning??? not sure what to call it. Women are taught all the time be nice, don't hurt anyone's feelings, etc. either blatantly told that or internalized from the culture around them. I know that I have a hard time asking for what I want and being direct (not all the time I can be direct as hell in the right situation) its like you are not supposed to be selfish, you must defer to making others happy, not make waves.
Having a hard time articulating most of this as it is something that I struggle with personally on where it comes from
Doesn't take too many times of saying thanks but not interested politely and the response being increasing pressure to interact and your wishes not being respected to go to the fall back of "sorry I have a boyfriend" because you know they respect that imaginary boyfriend more than they respect you.
That said on online dating, I don't understand not being direct. I always tried to be. Little risk to me if they were angry at rejection just ignore their subsequent tirades and delete message, and why string someone along that's cruel, also I have little patience with lots of messaging if I know its not going anywhere. my time is better spent interacting with people I AM interested in.
Even though I have never actually met anyone from this site I consider you all my friends, I think what @will-truman says above should be extended to each other as well as guest writers. Always be nice to guests but we should also always be nicer to each other.
I believe those of us who have been around for a while and know the lay of the land and all the players become complacent about civil discourse . I know in my personal life I can catch myself treating my friends and love ones in a manner that I would never dream of with a stranger. I presume they know my good intentions and respect for them. But if I don't SHOW them why ever would I think they would know it.
I have seen lately among the commentators a moving away from the presumption of good faith with each other. I hope we can all be more kiind to each other moving forward and especially more kind to our guest.
okay enough rambling this is why I respect all of you here that can write clearly and succinctly so much
@mike-dwyer I moved to Louisville in Aug of '97 and I remember everyone still talking about it I had just turned 21. Going to be in Louisville over Labor day to celebrate our milestone birthday this year with my sister. Staying on her boat on the river.
@burt-likko @will-truman @Tod and any other powers that be, Would you please pass on to the author that I thought her story was honest and brave, and I for one hope she will not be put off from posting on this site in the future. I thought her post set up what could have been a very interesting and worthwhile conversation.
I am really discouraged at the responses from the commentariat . Many of the points were valid but I have to say the tone was WAY harsher than need be especially for a brand new writer to the site on such a personal topic. I don't blame her one bit on asking that the post be removed.
Russell I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this heart wrenching yet beautiful part of your life. I lost my dad, way too soon, three years ago. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Thanks for this my TOD, 1984 was my first election to vote and I remember the same excitement about Jackson followed by the same disappointment. Going back farther I'm surprised I vote at all. My Dad was an elector for Eugene McCarthy in 1976, in 1980 we had a blackboard up following the primaries on TV Carter represented by a peanut, Bob Dole a banana (don't judge I was 14) can't remember what we had for Regan probably a monkey a'la bedtime for Bonzo
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When I lived in Denver it seemed like it would be beautiful right up till Halloween then .....COLD
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Congratulations @maribou and @jaybird !!!
Have the Halloween Train tomorrow regretting my choice of costume as it will be 86 degrees tomorrow. A party tomorrow night. Having an outlet fixed Sunday that is getting alarmingly hot (breaker is off) and then my BIL&SIL Harry Potter themed anniversary party Sunday night.
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Thank you for sharing @burtLikko and I am so sorry for your loss
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@kazzy I agree "yes but..." is different and probably a lot of the time is game playing, liking the attention but to lazy, self absorbed whatever to follow thru not to BSDI but men do this as well so maybe its just a facet of being human.
However I think some of those response come from the same ?? problematic conditioning??? not sure what to call it. Women are taught all the time be nice, don't hurt anyone's feelings, etc. either blatantly told that or internalized from the culture around them. I know that I have a hard time asking for what I want and being direct (not all the time I can be direct as hell in the right situation) its like you are not supposed to be selfish, you must defer to making others happy, not make waves.
Having a hard time articulating most of this as it is something that I struggle with personally on where it comes from
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Space awesome lol
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Doesn't take too many times of saying thanks but not interested politely and the response being increasing pressure to interact and your wishes not being respected to go to the fall back of "sorry I have a boyfriend" because you know they respect that imaginary boyfriend more than they respect you.
That said on online dating, I don't understand not being direct. I always tried to be. Little risk to me if they were angry at rejection just ignore their subsequent tirades and delete message, and why string someone along that's cruel, also I have little patience with lots of messaging if I know its not going anywhere. my time is better spent interacting with people I AM interested in.
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We signed up for smart meters OG&E sold it as you can save on your electric bill which we did
However now OG&E is raising all our bills to recover lost revenue so, so much for my savings
http://www.swtimes.com/news/20160817/oklahoma-regulators-ok-settlement-in-ogampe-smarthours-reimbursement-dispute
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@james-hanley It is really good to see you back even if it is temporary. I for one greatly miss your input here ... and most consider me a liberal :)
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Tomorrow we are hosting my nephews 13th birthday. My b-i-l found the red box D&D at a yard sale so we are playing old school
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You can sing it quietly?!
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Woo Hoo I'm in just finished a book and was trying to decide what to read next
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Even though I have never actually met anyone from this site I consider you all my friends, I think what @will-truman says above should be extended to each other as well as guest writers. Always be nice to guests but we should also always be nicer to each other.
I believe those of us who have been around for a while and know the lay of the land and all the players become complacent about civil discourse . I know in my personal life I can catch myself treating my friends and love ones in a manner that I would never dream of with a stranger. I presume they know my good intentions and respect for them. But if I don't SHOW them why ever would I think they would know it.
I have seen lately among the commentators a moving away from the presumption of good faith with each other. I hope we can all be more kiind to each other moving forward and especially more kind to our guest.
okay enough rambling this is why I respect all of you here that can write clearly and succinctly so much
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@mike-dwyer I moved to Louisville in Aug of '97 and I remember everyone still talking about it I had just turned 21. Going to be in Louisville over Labor day to celebrate our milestone birthday this year with my sister. Staying on her boat on the river.
I feel for everyone in Louisiana
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@burt-likko @will-truman @Tod and any other powers that be, Would you please pass on to the author that I thought her story was honest and brave, and I for one hope she will not be put off from posting on this site in the future. I thought her post set up what could have been a very interesting and worthwhile conversation.
I am really discouraged at the responses from the commentariat . Many of the points were valid but I have to say the tone was WAY harsher than need be especially for a brand new writer to the site on such a personal topic. I don't blame her one bit on asking that the post be removed.
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Space Awesome!
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Russell I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this heart wrenching yet beautiful part of your life. I lost my dad, way too soon, three years ago. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Thanks for this my TOD, 1984 was my first election to vote and I remember the same excitement about Jackson followed by the same disappointment. Going back farther I'm surprised I vote at all. My Dad was an elector for Eugene McCarthy in 1976, in 1980 we had a blackboard up following the primaries on TV Carter represented by a peanut, Bob Dole a banana (don't judge I was 14) can't remember what we had for Regan probably a monkey a'la bedtime for Bonzo
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Thanks! It really was a cool challenging project. The flag is not complete but still measures appx. 29ft x 35ft ish
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Which apparently it did not
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10206715324028315&set=a.3546897277699.2129583.1430562158&type=3&theater
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Just a little humble brag here...
I was fortunate enough to actually work on The Star Spangled Banner
Pics to prove it ....if the link works
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