This Accused Serial Sexual Abuser Is Also a Famous Victim. Why Isn’t That News?

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  1. Pinky says:

    1- Childhood sexual abuse, or any other kind of serious childhood abuse, interferes with healthy development. It confuses a child’s understanding of relationships, and not simply in an intellectual way. I’ve heard it described this way: some people say that children are resilient, but the truth is that they’re adaptable.

    2- Does $1 million cure psychological issues? Watch TMZ and you’ll know it doesn’t.

    3- Do paedos “seem so nice”? This is a trick question. It’s similar to the myth that sociopaths are smart and have great interpersonal skills. The successful ones do, but the rest don’t get labelled sociopaths; they’re just creepy guys in the alley.Report

    • Greg In Ak in reply to Pinky says:

      I work with a lot of abusive people and their victims. I’ve heard roughly a billion times that “I should watch out for my ex, he/she is a great liar. They con everyone.” Very few of those people i should watch out for are good or even passable liars. But my position and experience is different.

      Pedo’s or sociopaths usually feel off to “normal” adults. There is a reason they tend to prey on kids or people with problems. However there is a solid chunk of people ( maybe 25%, very rough guess) who tend to be more easily conned. My guess and experience is that those people came from abusive homes so they don’t see what are fairly obvious signs or have a gut that tells them “danger.”Report

  2. I think many things interfere with healthy development. But there are also many gradients between “healthy development” and “sexually accosting random girls in public.” Same for that behavior, versus the typical dysfunction we see highlighted on TMZ.

    It’s not that the money cures the issues. But one can afford therapy, and avoid severe economic stressors. The guy was such a big voice against clergy abuse, and then he goes and (allegedly) does these awful things in the same vein. It’s discouraging.

    And what about all the dozens of other plaintiffs who settled along with him? I’d bet most if not all have managed to avoid sexually assaulting minors. At least, I hope so. So why this guy?Report

    • Pinky in reply to Tina Trujillo says:

      I think you just gave the key phrase for why this hasn’t become a story: it’s discouraging. No one wants to think about the cycle of violence and abuse because it’s miserable. It also ruins the narrative. We want to think that we can isolate a problem and it’ll go away, but everyone who suffers some kind of abuse is carrying around a scar at best.

      A dear friend has gotten her life on a decent track, but she became unreasonably protective of her daughter around the time she turned 12. Knowing her background, I could understand why that happened, but she couldn’t. She had no perspective on it. I believe in free will, but we also have to recognize that people can get their wires crossed and it becomes a full-time job to function correctly.Report

      • Tina Trujillo in reply to Pinky says:

        I think there are two at least two potential narratives that this story disrupts, and none that it fits.
        If one wanted to argue Catholic priest accusers are opportunistic liars, this doesn’t help much, because there’s still all the other evidence. If it had just been this one guy, it might help exonerate Widera in the public eye, but alas.

        If one wished to make a point about how badly clergy abuse damages its victims … this guy is a hard subject with whom to sympathize now, given his charges. Well-compensated, publicly validated, a scenester with famous friends … Attacking little girls while they look for books and toys. Yet he’s someone I probably would have thought was hot 30 years ago.

        If he’s allowed mitigation due to his past, do we have to then consider what happened to Fr. Widera to cause his behavior? Heck, what trauma was suffered by Harvey Weinstein? Jeff Epstein?Report

  3. TruthBeTold says:

    i knew Chris, and I know his story with Widera. Widera had his hands on me, but Chris’s experience with him was much worse than mine. i was not part of the lawsuit. This is the first I’ve heard of Chris’s current situation, of which this article is my only information. I feel, given the accusatory bent in this story, that Chis’s past deserves validation.Report