What I guess I'm trying to say this as its like somebody wants to curse but can't or won't for some reason. I don't think that people should make a habit of cursing but if they want to curse than they should curse rather than using a cutesy way around it.
I don't know if I'm necessarily attracted to women that are the opposite of me but I like sophisticated and elegant women that dress well and are good conversationalists. Sort of like how people stereotypically view continental Europeans. I'm a very good conversationalist and into high culture but I don't know if a possess the polish or background to be sophisticated and elegant. Whether I dress well or not is also subject for debate.
Russel, I'm guessing that the LBGT community is so assimilated that they are distributed widely throughout San Francisco at this point. I'm also guessing that most people can't afford to rent near the Castro unless they make a lot of money, have a ridiculous number of roomates, or lucked out with rent control.
Interesting factoid, in Japanese slang a feminist is a man who follows a ladies' first policy. In the Anglosphere, we would call this a gentleman not a feminist.
Kazzy, I work in Chinatown and live in a nearby Brooklyn neighborhood. My commute is thirty minutes including walking times. I think only my dentist and my mom's previous neurologist had better commutes for the NYC metropolitan area.
Russel, the main drag of the Castro is one blog but did you check out any of the side streets?
What about Ann Arbor or whatever city Penn State is located in? One person's college town is another person's corporate city. After all, college towns pretty much only exist economically to provide services to the colleges near them. Ithaca and Ann Arbor would be nothing without Cornell, Ithacha, and the Unniversity of Michigan respectively. This requires a bit of boosterism that would make any college town a corporate city.
Its really no different than the people who fly the American flag all year round to express their patriotism. Except that the people are broadcasting their sexual patriotism.
These questions seem weird from a lawyer's perspective. At least in my experience and from people I know, either the salary and work schedule is more or less known before the interview takes place or can be safely brought up and negotiated during the interview. At every job I applied for as a lawyer, I knew what was being offered in terms of salary and work schedule more or less.
I think opinion whether or not FDR approved the economy depends a lot on partisan feelings rather than objective fact at this point. The economic situation was so bad when FDR became President that even if he did improve the economy greatly, it could still be pretty sucky. Even if FDR did not approve the economy, he gave people hope and the New Deal did do a lot to make living in a really horrible economy more bearable.
I don't think that the GOP necessarily has to change to win elections. However, if they continue to act as the currently do than they are not going to necessarily be the best at governing and could end up loosing big.
Kazzy, not all of us are what you call romantically successful. I've been on plenty of dates but none that really led anywhere. As I see it, I'm going to get one chance at a relationship and I might as well make it a good one.
Murali, this is an exactly point. You can't demand that somebody date, love, or have sex with you. For the concept of choice consent to be meaningful in romance and sex, people need to be free to reject prospective partners for a wide variety reasons. Some of these reasons are going to be superficial and some are going to be immoral or evil but attraction isn't fair. Its probably one of the few areas of life where being unfair is the just thing. Asking people to reconsider who they want to romance is problematic for the reasons of choice and consent that you listed out above.
I'm going to risk fire and debate this. A lot of people want biological children of their own. They don't date to for terrific sex or to find true love. They date because they want a spouse that they could raise a family with. That requires a spouse that could get them pregnant or that could get pregnant. This kind of requires a cis-gender person. If somebody wants their own children than they aren't a bad person for not wanting to dating somebody who is cis-gender.
Likewise, your statements regarding not wanting to date somebody outside your race is a sign of privilege isn't that obvious upon deeper examination. ND and I are Jewish men. There are only 14 million Jews in the world. Jewish law is very clear that a Jew is a child of a Jewish mother. If we want to have Jewish children than we need to have them with a Jewish mother. This isn't privilege, its wanting to help your culture continue for at least another generation and don't call Jews white because we've been through too much persecution for that.
Finally, as ND pointed out above, people feel generally comfortable dating people like them and who could understand them. He said, even barring children, that he has no particular desire to celebrate Christmas or Easter or Ramandan or Chinese New Year, and he doesn't have to. If he were to date a Christian woman, she might want to celebrate Christmas and want him to participate. Why not date a woman for suited to what he wants and avoid friction?
greginak, this isn't actually true. The Church of England had enormous powers and preogatives in the English state. Besides the fact that their leadership sat in the House of Lords, which only became toothless in 1912; the Church of England had the right to a tithe and significant control over various legal matters till the mid-19th century and performed various government functions. Protestant Churches in Scandinavian countries had similar powers and perogatives.
Its just that the Roman Catholic leadership was more independent of the leadership of the countries where they were the state religion than the Protestant churches. They were in a better position to fight back.
Japan had a state religion, State Shinto, till 1945. It revolved around Emperor worship. Other religions were allowed as long as they didn't pose a threat to the imperial government. The Americans instituted separation of religion and state when we unleashed a bunch of New Dealers on Japan during the Occupation.
On the height thing, I'm short and it does make finding people who want to date you hard but it isn't impossible. I've been on dates with women who were shorter, taller, and the same size as me. If you walk around, you'll see that short, heterosexual men of all races can get girlfriend and wives. Yes, many women like tall men but it isn't a deal breaker for all of them. Its just like how many men like women who have big breasts. That being said, Friday Next I feel for you as another short man.
Vikram, its very sad that we have these really great people who can't find romance or sex because of some disability thats not there fault. However, I don't know if anything can be done about it. Absent universal arranged marriages, you can't force anybody to date or marry somebody that they don't want to. I think most people are realistic enough to understand that they aren't going to get Aphrodite or Adonis as a mate but its not necessarily bigoted for a person to want somebody of average health and looks. You can't shame people into for not being deep enough to overcome these things.
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James, speaking of the GOP trying to win elections by other means.
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On “Whither the pride flag?”
What I guess I'm trying to say this as its like somebody wants to curse but can't or won't for some reason. I don't think that people should make a habit of cursing but if they want to curse than they should curse rather than using a cutesy way around it.
On “Cross-Cultural Relationships: Stereotyping, Assimilation, and Cultural Similarties and Differences”
I don't know if I'm necessarily attracted to women that are the opposite of me but I like sophisticated and elegant women that dress well and are good conversationalists. Sort of like how people stereotypically view continental Europeans. I'm a very good conversationalist and into high culture but I don't know if a possess the polish or background to be sophisticated and elegant. Whether I dress well or not is also subject for debate.
On “Whither the pride flag?”
Its just that the term seem so WASPy.
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Russel, I'm guessing that the LBGT community is so assimilated that they are distributed widely throughout San Francisco at this point. I'm also guessing that most people can't afford to rent near the Castro unless they make a lot of money, have a ridiculous number of roomates, or lucked out with rent control.
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They all play football/soccer.
On “Cross-Cultural Relationships: Stereotyping, Assimilation, and Cultural Similarties and Differences”
The title of this posts sounds like the post should be in acdemic journal of some sorts.
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Interesting factoid, in Japanese slang a feminist is a man who follows a ladies' first policy. In the Anglosphere, we would call this a gentleman not a feminist.
Ah, Japan.
On “Whither the pride flag?”
Who on earth uses the terms fiddlesticks.
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Kazzy, I work in Chinatown and live in a nearby Brooklyn neighborhood. My commute is thirty minutes including walking times. I think only my dentist and my mom's previous neurologist had better commutes for the NYC metropolitan area.
Russel, the main drag of the Castro is one blog but did you check out any of the side streets?
On “The Corporate City or the Scholarly Enclave?”
What about Ann Arbor or whatever city Penn State is located in? One person's college town is another person's corporate city. After all, college towns pretty much only exist economically to provide services to the colleges near them. Ithaca and Ann Arbor would be nothing without Cornell, Ithacha, and the Unniversity of Michigan respectively. This requires a bit of boosterism that would make any college town a corporate city.
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Is there any functional difference between a corporate city and a collge town?
On “Whither the pride flag?”
I live in NYC. ND lives in San Francisco.
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Its really no different than the people who fly the American flag all year round to express their patriotism. Except that the people are broadcasting their sexual patriotism.
On “Employer Entitlement (Know Your Place)”
These questions seem weird from a lawyer's perspective. At least in my experience and from people I know, either the salary and work schedule is more or less known before the interview takes place or can be safely brought up and negotiated during the interview. At every job I applied for as a lawyer, I knew what was being offered in terms of salary and work schedule more or less.
On “Extreme Party Makeovers”
I think opinion whether or not FDR approved the economy depends a lot on partisan feelings rather than objective fact at this point. The economic situation was so bad when FDR became President that even if he did improve the economy greatly, it could still be pretty sucky. Even if FDR did not approve the economy, he gave people hope and the New Deal did do a lot to make living in a really horrible economy more bearable.
On “Weekend!”
West Coast Swing can be a very sexy dance but not that sexy.
On “Extreme Party Makeovers”
I don't think that the GOP necessarily has to change to win elections. However, if they continue to act as the currently do than they are not going to necessarily be the best at governing and could end up loosing big.
On “Racism and Cross-racial Love”
Kazzy, not all of us are what you call romantically successful. I've been on plenty of dates but none that really led anywhere. As I see it, I'm going to get one chance at a relationship and I might as well make it a good one.
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Murali, this is an exactly point. You can't demand that somebody date, love, or have sex with you. For the concept of choice consent to be meaningful in romance and sex, people need to be free to reject prospective partners for a wide variety reasons. Some of these reasons are going to be superficial and some are going to be immoral or evil but attraction isn't fair. Its probably one of the few areas of life where being unfair is the just thing. Asking people to reconsider who they want to romance is problematic for the reasons of choice and consent that you listed out above.
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I'm going to risk fire and debate this. A lot of people want biological children of their own. They don't date to for terrific sex or to find true love. They date because they want a spouse that they could raise a family with. That requires a spouse that could get them pregnant or that could get pregnant. This kind of requires a cis-gender person. If somebody wants their own children than they aren't a bad person for not wanting to dating somebody who is cis-gender.
Likewise, your statements regarding not wanting to date somebody outside your race is a sign of privilege isn't that obvious upon deeper examination. ND and I are Jewish men. There are only 14 million Jews in the world. Jewish law is very clear that a Jew is a child of a Jewish mother. If we want to have Jewish children than we need to have them with a Jewish mother. This isn't privilege, its wanting to help your culture continue for at least another generation and don't call Jews white because we've been through too much persecution for that.
Finally, as ND pointed out above, people feel generally comfortable dating people like them and who could understand them. He said, even barring children, that he has no particular desire to celebrate Christmas or Easter or Ramandan or Chinese New Year, and he doesn't have to. If he were to date a Christian woman, she might want to celebrate Christmas and want him to participate. Why not date a woman for suited to what he wants and avoid friction?
On “Weekend!”
West Coast Swing at Strictly Westies.
On “Theocratic Democracy”
greginak, this isn't actually true. The Church of England had enormous powers and preogatives in the English state. Besides the fact that their leadership sat in the House of Lords, which only became toothless in 1912; the Church of England had the right to a tithe and significant control over various legal matters till the mid-19th century and performed various government functions. Protestant Churches in Scandinavian countries had similar powers and perogatives.
Its just that the Roman Catholic leadership was more independent of the leadership of the countries where they were the state religion than the Protestant churches. They were in a better position to fight back.
"
Japan had a state religion, State Shinto, till 1945. It revolved around Emperor worship. Other religions were allowed as long as they didn't pose a threat to the imperial government. The Americans instituted separation of religion and state when we unleashed a bunch of New Dealers on Japan during the Occupation.
On “Racism and Cross-racial Love”
On the height thing, I'm short and it does make finding people who want to date you hard but it isn't impossible. I've been on dates with women who were shorter, taller, and the same size as me. If you walk around, you'll see that short, heterosexual men of all races can get girlfriend and wives. Yes, many women like tall men but it isn't a deal breaker for all of them. Its just like how many men like women who have big breasts. That being said, Friday Next I feel for you as another short man.
Vikram, its very sad that we have these really great people who can't find romance or sex because of some disability thats not there fault. However, I don't know if anything can be done about it. Absent universal arranged marriages, you can't force anybody to date or marry somebody that they don't want to. I think most people are realistic enough to understand that they aren't going to get Aphrodite or Adonis as a mate but its not necessarily bigoted for a person to want somebody of average health and looks. You can't shame people into for not being deep enough to overcome these things.
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