Failure, Tragedy, & Comedy, (and a little about “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”)

Rufus F.

Rufus is a likeable curmudgeon. He has a PhD in History, sang for a decade in a punk band, and recently moved to NYC after nearly two decades in Canada. He wrote the book "The Paris Bureau" from Dio Press (2021).

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  1. Jaybird
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    One of the things that I did not understand in my 20s but whoa nelly do I understand them in my fifties are the concepts of “good enough” and how there are so very many ways to do things wrong but only one way to do them perfectly.

    I had this weird perfectionism thing going on where, if something wasn’t going to be perfect, then I shouldn’t do it at all. It was easier to just implode than hand in a B-. “If you ain’t first, you’re last” and that sort of thing. I think one of the things, other than life itself, that shook it out of me was reading an early blogpost about a guy who worked at Kinko’s or one of those places and they had a motivational speaker come in and opened with “who thinks that 99% successful is good enough?” and everybody raised their hands and then the guy fired back with “If airlines were 99% successful, we’d have 400 plane crashes a day!”

    I looked at that story and thought “he’s pulling a trick…” and when I understood that there’s a *LOT* of room in “good enough” before you get to failure (let alone catastrophic failure), I also stopped beating myself up quite so much.

    Or maybe I just got older and marriage chilled me out a bit.

    As for the multitudes of failure, just think about something like “almost winning the lottery”. How many different ways are there to “almost” win the lottery? Bought a ticket at the same store that the winner bought one just an hour earlier. Or an hour later. Bought a ticket a split second later in another state entirely. Got all of the numbers +1. Got all of the numbers -1. Got all of the numbers… but these were the winning numbers for a week earlier. Or a week later. So close! Almost made it.

    So when you see someone do something perfectly, just think about how many ways that that could have been a failure and they avoided *ALL* of them.

    But then back around to… even if they made a couple of small mistakes, well… maybe it’s still good enough, right?Report

  2. LeeEsq
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    A couple of weeks ago, I watched the 1975 movie, Hester Street. People often talk about things that can’t made today and mean things that are somewhat non-Woke. Hester Street was a black and white movie about an Americanized Jewish immigrant struggling with his traditionalist wife in the 1890s, and pretty much sympathizes with the Jews that want to remain traditional and Orthodox over the assimilated ones. An early scene involves a newly arrived and very Orthodox Jew being made fun of by more acculturated immigrants. It was made for $400,000, shot in black and white, half in Yiddish, and grossed $5 million. I can’t imagine anything like this happening in the 2020s.Report

  3. Saul Degraw
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    Midsummer is a play about f***ing. This is what it is about. It is about horny teenagers who want to f*** but the adults tell them they cannot f***. So they go and run away to the woods so they can f***. But because it is Shakespeare, it is somehow deemed safe for high school English class because I am convinced most of them ignore/avoid all the dirty jokes. Maybe you get a cool English teacher every now and then that teaches the dirty jokes and double meanings like how Nunnery could be a literal reference or a brothel and which is Hamlet telling Ophelia to get herself to?Report

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