Sex At First Site?


Will Truman

Will Truman is the Editor-in-Chief of Ordinary Times. He is also on Twitter.

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7 Responses

  1. Avatar Doctor Jay says:

    It’s odd that you would say “men” here, Will:

    “Sex may set the stage for deepening the emotional connection between strangers,” says the study’s lead author, Gurit Birnbaum, a social psychologist and associate professor at the IDC Herzliya. “This holds true for both men and women. Sex motivates human beings to connect — regardless of gender.”


  2. Avatar Tracy says:

    I’m not sure that I’m the best person to respond. However, being off the heels of a 12 month relationship where sexual chemistry included courtship does indeed exist in relationships. But once commitment phobic individuals fear a relationship deepening beyond the physical, not only does the style of the courtship change, but so does the conversation. It makes absolutely no difference what so ever. If you’re with someone for three months, then marry three months later, or together a year, and they run for the hills over unconfirmed fears, it’s the individual not the courtship.

    PS- my avatar is spongebob on meth.Report

  3. Avatar veronica d says:

    The abstract:

    “””Sexual desire has long been theorized to serve a relationship-initiation function by bringing partners together. Four studies addressed this possibility, examining whether activation of the sexual system encouraged the enactment of nonsexual behaviors that signal warmth and contact readiness. In Study 1, participants mimed together with an opposite-sex confederate to prerecorded music. Participant’s desire for the confederate was associated with coded immediacy behaviors toward the confederate (e.g., proximity seeking, synchronization). Study 2 extended these findings, showing that participants, who slow danced with a confederate perceived to be more desirable, were more synchronized with the confederate. Synchronization, in turn, was associated with greater interest in future interactions with the confederate. Studies 3 and 4 established a causal connection between sexual activation and engagement in relationship-promoting behaviors (provision of responsiveness and help, respectively). These findings suggest that intense desire, which attracts new partners to each other, elicits behaviors that support the attachment-bonding process.”””

    (Is there a way to blockquote on the new forum?)

    So, setting aside the normal bad science journalism, what does this say?

    1. People want to dance with those they find hot. When they do, their dancing is more “synchronized.”

    Okay, that makes sense, rather unsurprising.

    2. If someone turns you on, you may want to have more of a relationship with them, as opposed to if they don’t turn you on.

    Thanks science! I had no idea that sexual desire led to a desire for a relationship. I’m glad they cleared that up.

    But seriously, this is obvious. Furthermore, unless I’m missing something, this study says nothing about actually having sex with anyone. In other words, the article is crappy clickbait. The editors should sit in a corner and feel bad for what they’ve done.Report

    • Avatar Stillwater says:

      “Look, we started dancing real close and talking, and I’m gettin aroused, ya know?, and then these feelings for her as a person sorta came outa nowhere. It was really weird, but it happened.”

      “No way. I don’t believe it.”

      “No really. It’s true. The scientists say so.”Report

  4. Avatar Kolohe says:

    There was no sex at the first site, but I’m pretty sure the second one had it.Report