Catcalling and other indignities
Yesterday I decided to walk home from work because I had some errands to do along the way. On the walk, there was a very attractive young woman who ended up getting a lot of attention from men on the street. This is a section of Market which seems immune to gentrification and just has people generally hanging out and smoking weed all the time and gang violence every now and then (there was a drive by shooting on Sunday). One young guy began telling the women about how she was so fine and he just couldn’t think of anything else but her body. I ended up apologizing to the woman on behalf of my gender and she said she was used to it. We somehow ended up walking side by side for a while but two feet apart and she had headphones on. Another guy began shouting to me how lucky I was. I have no idea why he thought we were a couple considering the distance between us.
We parted ways after a bit. I reported the story on facebook and got confirmation from female friends about even more appalling behavior from men including extreme indecent exposure on public transport.
I am not the best of casanovas but what is the purpose of this kind of catcalling? I can’t imagine it works unless there is an extreme numbers game going on like if you ask woman after woman “will you sleep with me?” eventually someone is going to say yes. FWIW I’ve also been told that my on-line dating game is different for not just saying “hey you seem cute. Let’s get a drink and see how it goes” and I have been thanked by women for writing in full sentences and paragraphs more than once. Then they probably get overwhelmed because I tend to think in paragraphs.
Basically I don’t understand my gender especially guys who somehow got it in their heads that all women are checking them out all the time. That is some serious hubris going on there.