Israel, Palestine, and Cosmopolitan
One of the issues (NPI*) that has been bothering all of us ever since there were people writing blogs is the problem of how to best solve the problems that Israel and Palestine are having with each other. There are more solutions than writers, if you can believe that! The whole “go back to 1968 borders”, “go back to 1947 borders”, “two state solution”, “three state solution”, and by the time I got to “Gaza Withdrawal”, I thought “we need to think about this not as an international issue but as a *PERSONAL* issue.”
How long have magazines like Time, Newsweek, and US News and World Report been in charge of figuring out how to solve the problem? How many solutions have they actually come up with? I figure that it’s time for us to start looking at *OTHER* solutions. The old ones not only haven’t worked, they’re pretty dull.
So I grabbed an issue of Cosmopolitan and immediately saw that I was on the right track. “Why guys pull away (and what to do when it happens)” was practically an article written for Palestine. “How to get some when you live with your parents” (practically an article devoted to living under any kind of occupation), and they had a famous Armenian American on the cover who is capable of writing about how it’s possible to GET WHAT YOU WANT (and that’s what both sides need to actualize for themselves: WHAT THEY WANT).
In reading the articles, the main thing that keeps coming up over and over again is the importance of the mouth. Talking, oral, even just kissing!, were all discussed as windows into getting into the deeper relationship where *YOU* are in charge. This tells me that the first thing that these guys need to do is to get their mouths moving! Re-establish talks! But, if he keeps pulling away (like in Gaza), it could be one of three things: He’s not ready for commitment, it’s too much too fast, or the chemistry is fading.
The commitment problem is one that is probably addressed by finding a new partner… which is a bummer but sometimes that’s the way to cookie crumbles. If it’s too much too fast, though, GIVE HIM SOME SPACE! He probably needs to process the various things he’s going through. It takes longer for guys to develop trust. Let him grow at his own rate. If the chemistry is fading, this is where the rubber meets the road. Buying a new lingerie outfit might work this week, but next week? The week after that? It’s not *SUSTAINABLE*. So it’s at that point that you need to really hammer out what you’re both hoping for which brings us back to the TALKING ABOUT IT.
This is why I’ve come to the conclusion that the most important thing for Israel/Palestine is for the talks to resume. You have to hammer this stuff out and you won’t do that without a lot of talking.
*No Pun Intended