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David Ryan

David Ryan is a boat builder and USCG licensed master captain. He is the owner of Sailing Montauk and skipper of Montauk''s charter sailing catamaran MON TIKI You can follow him on Twitter @CaptDavidRyan

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  1. Avatar jc says:

    not sure what is so objectionable about the alan jacobs paragraph. pray tell.Report

    • Avatar David Ryan in reply to jc says:

      I did not mean to imply that Jacobs or Millman are a part of my personal petty “Rogues’ Gallery”. I left them unnamed on purpose. Sorry for the confusion.Report

  2. I had an unfortunate falling out with a friend last night. We’ve disagreed vehemently about things in the past, but have always been able to keep such disagreements from getting personal. Sadly, no such luck last night… and the worst part is that it should not have been a big deal. So let’s just say that I think you wrote this post for me for this moment.

    Also, I love your Thermomixed Up-type posts. I’ll be glad to see something like that coming back.Report

  3. Avatar DensityDuck says:

    “I have a persistent daydream, and that daydream find me and the afore mentioned fools and frauds on my boat. ”

    The hard part about reading, versus conversing, is not imagining the words you read being spoken inside your head. Because when they’re spoken, they are spoken with your voice. Which means you hear it as though you were talking. And if you said the things those people wrote, then you’d obviously be either lying or stupid or wrong; and you get mad, because who’s this jerk that came along and made you be lying or stupid or wrong?Report

    • Avatar Ramblin' Rod in reply to DensityDuck says:

      Oh, DD! That’s what I hate about euphemisms like “the n-word.” We all know what the “n-word” really is and so when someone says “n-word” your internal voice just translates it to “nigger.” So now some asshole that can’t bring themselves to say the word out loud has just caused you to say it in your own head in your own voice. Just like I did there by typing it out. Of course what I’m talking about is more of an issue with spoken words since written words do that anyway no matter what.Report

  4. Avatar MaxL says:

    The quoted graphs seem entirely bland and ordinary to me; they’ll never get any points for originality or courage. But what is infuriating about them? Is the objection that these these paragraphs took more effort to read than they took thought to write?Report

  5. Avatar Chris says:

    For the new year. — I still live, I still think: I still have to live, for I still have to think. Sum, ergo cogito: cogito, ergo sum. Today everybody permits himself the expression of his wish and his dearest thought: hence I, too, shall say what it is that I wish from myself today, and what was the first thought to run across my heart this year — what thought shall be for me the reason, warranty, and sweetness of my life henceforth. I want to learn to see more and more as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who makes things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all and all and on the whole: someday I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.

    -By some German dude, translated by some other German dude.

    OK, it’s #276 in Die fröhliche Wissenschaft, Kaufmann’s translation. I suspect Nietzsche realized that this was one of his most difficult aphorisms to follow, given how difficult it was for him to follow it himself. But I suspect it’s worth trying.Report

  6. Avatar AJ says:

    Perhaps you haven’t been sailing enough lately. When I reach such a pass it’s time to saddle the horses and head into the mountains. Like the oceans, the mountains can swallow a man in a moment of laxity or a misreading of the weather. It does center the mind nicely.Report

    • Avatar David Ryan in reply to AJ says:

      Remarkable that your initials are AJ; and yes, not enough water time this year. I’ve invested most of this year in the hopes of abundant water time in the near future!Report

  7. Avatar joey jo jo says:

    Do you also “love” particular pundits because they cause others’ blood to boil? I’m thinking of a lady who comes from a family of academics that are actually intimidating and very much dislikes whisking a bechamel.Report