Comment Rescue: The Right Answer?
Here. Let’s put it this way. Say you’re at a restaurant and someone comes up and tells (your wife) that she shouldn’t be there because her job is to be at home making babies and dinner. Are the only two acceptable responses from you these ones?
1. “THAT’S AGAINST THE LAW! SOMEONE SHOOT HIS DOG!”
2. “Oh well, free country.”
I should think not.
I’m curious as to what people may think are acceptable responses, and what one means by, “acceptable responses”.
What do we mean by acceptable? Is it acceptable to punch the guy’s lights out? Socially, that is? Whether or not we believe that this ought to be legal or not, is violence an acceptable answer here?
Is getting into a shouting match acceptable? Is this more socially acceptable than punching the guy’s lights out? (Greater society may say “yes”, but the fellow diners in the restaurant might actually prefer a short violent altercation in the parking lot to having a couple of guys yelling at each other and ruining their dinner).
Realize that any answer other than, “Oh, well, free country” on the part of the guy whose wife was just harped on is probably going to lead to violence. Is engaging with this idiot on any level acceptable, when you know it’s likely to lead to a violent altercation in the parking lot? If so, why is arguing with the guy *more* acceptable than just decking him in the first place. Saves time, yes?
Is it acceptable to even ask this question? Doesn’t it imply paternalism of the worst sort? If the answer is “I let my wife punch the guy out” is that acceptable husbandly behavior? Does it matter if she would want me to play the defender or not?
Because here’s where I come down: I don’t see any response in this sort of scenario other than, “Oh, well, free country” that leads to a non-neutral outcome. Anything you do is likely to provoke a much worse scenario. Too beta male?