A Brave Foot Forward

by · April 13, 2012

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Mike Dwyer

Mike Dwyer is a former writer and contributor at Ordinary Times.

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  1. Avatar Nicole
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    April 13, 2012 at 9:11 pm

    Thank you. Your words are so kind.Report

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  2. Avatar Pierre Corneille
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    April 14, 2012 at 11:41 am

    A woman who’s very close to me was married to someone for about 20 years before finally getting a divorce.  He was / is a nice guy, but obviously, it was hard on everyone.  Now, however, she seems much happier (it’s been about 7 years since the divorce), and I’m proud of her for having the courage to respect herself enough to make what was a very difficult decision.  I wish Nicole the best.

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  3. Avatar Tod Kelly
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    April 14, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    Wow.  I just read the whole post. I know that it is all for the best, but I also imagine it must be an unspeakably painful thing for everyone involved right now.  My best wishes to Nicole & her family.Report

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  4. Avatar Jason Kuznicki
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    April 15, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Is this why Bryan Caplan thinks you should have the option of a no-exit marriage contract?

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  5. Avatar Jason Kuznicki
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    April 15, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Snark aside, I wish you all the best, and I hope things do go well for you, Nicole.Report

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[caption id="attachment_317656" align="aligncenter" width="720"]Andrew Yang 1 May 2018; Andrew Yang, Democratic Presidential Candidate on centre stage during day one of Collision 2018 at Ernest N. Morial Convention Center in New Orleans. Photo by Stephen McCarthy/Collision via Sportsfile[/caption]

Where to even start...

Let's assume Yang didn't mean this as the malicious stupidity it could be taken as, because I don't think he did. Assuming the friend and conversation happened at all, the idea of doing "chicken pox party"-style herd immunity already has had disastrous results both in England where it was initial policy and more recently in Kentucky, where such a party lead to infections.

Just because veterans are praised -- deservedly -- for the sacrifices they make on behalf of all of us, and their willingness to do so, doesn't mean they should be sacrificial every time a sacrifice needs to be made. Especially when it would be a meaningless sacrifice at that.

Veterans have done enough of those kinds of missions, thank you very much.

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Hammers and Hangnails
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A couple weeks back our Saul DeGraw wrote a piece called Life Under Quarantine where he relayed some of his thoughts and observations about this weird time in which we live.

This was one of the comments:

This commenter wrote a whole chain of these remarks, and they were quite witty. They would have made for a marvelous standalone piece, scathing social commentary, one I would have praised to the skies. But the way they were presented, as comments on an individual author's article and in response to other commenters who chimed in to commiserate with the author, rankled me.

One of my personal pet peeves is when a person has a problem in this world, and ok maybe it's not the HUGEST problem ever, but it's irritating and painful to them, and someone chimes in to mock or correct them, telling them they don't have it that bad, that it could always be worse, yadda yadda yadda.

Now, this may surprise you since I write regularly about how terrible things were in the past and how we should look at our ancestors with more sympathy and understanding, and also that we who live in modern times should have a greater appreciation for the miraculous age in which we live. But those are observations in the general sense. Food for thought. Not a personal rebuke directed at any one person. When I write that type of article, I'm not intentionally coming out swinging against a specific individual.* I'm simply trying to provide historical and cultural perspective OVERALL, for people to think about or not as they so choose, instead of as a personal attack designed to embarrass someone.

I just find it rather unkind when people say "hey, I'm struggling right now" and the response is to pile on.

If you hit your thumb with a hammer, it hurts. It doesn't matter in that moment if there are people with thumb cancer or people born without thumbs or people whose thumbs are withering away from malnutrition in Outer Absurdistan. You still feel pain, great pain, even if you know that pain will go away in time, even if you know it's not literally the worst thing that has ever happened in human history. It hurts and people should respect that and provide comfort when their fellow human being is in pain, even if way down deep inside you don't think it's THAT big of a deal. And if you really can't provide comfort, if their complaints are so minor that you just can't even with that, then just walk away. Say nothing. Saying nothing is always an option. It is human nature to reach out to others when you're in pain, when you're scared, when you feel isolated, and that should not be an opening for some jerk to come in with another hammer and whack that thumb again.

Are there people out there who may be complaining a little TOO much sometimes? Sure. Should we all count our blessings way more than we do? Absolutely. I agree that there are many folks out there who are in dire need of a little perspective. But surely this perspective doesn't need to be in the form of a personal attack or a public rebuke - from which no one has ever learned anything from anyway. Personal attacks are made not to teach or inform, but to make the attacker feel a temporary frisson of pleasure at the expense of another, and I am of the opinion that personal attacks about people's coronavirus/quarantine anxiety are yet another pleasure we should probably forgo right now.

I think we can probably all agree the coronavirus quarantine is a lousy situation to find ourselves in, even if it is not the literally worst thing that has ever happened to a human being, even if the things we are mourning are as minor as the ability to purchase street tacos. And even a hangnail hurts. Complaining about small, relatable pains - hangnails and paper cuts and sunburns and mosquito bites and feeling awkward at parties and chomping down on the inside of our cheek really bad 17 times in a row - is one of those things that brings us together as human beings. We have all experienced pain, and loss, and fear, it sucks and it's part of the human condition to seek sympathy from others when we're hurting.

The last thing anyone needs right now is a big squeeze of lemon juice rubbed into their wounds.

*I admit I'm not perfect and have not always been a paragon of virtue on this site or on Twitter. Please respect me trying to do something positive here rather than take the opportunity to pedantically go back and screenshot things I've said that I probably shouldn't have. I admit I don't always live up to my lofty goals, but at least I have them.

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  1. Despite being divorced for more than three years now, I'm pretty happy about having kept that Costco membership. Toilet paper was never a worry for me.
  2. I've not worn my contact lenses in three weeks. It's amazing how dirty my glasses get with constant use every day. On the plus side, I haven't lost a pair of readers since all of this started.
  3. Comparing my bank statements with my current bank activity, I realize how much I was going out to eat, back in the BQ (Before Quarantine). This should probably be made into a durable lifestyle change and persist into the AQ (After Quarantine), rather than an interim adjustment for DQ (During Quarantine) purposes only.
  4. Joe Exotic is a piece of work, yo.
  5. I subscribe to Imperfect Produce, so that reduces my need to go to the store. I've been getting lots of citrus and getting myself some kind of citrus juice almost every morning. Fresh-squeezed juice tastes great. I probably can't blame just the citrus juice for my weight gain, though: I've got salty crunchy snacks and elastic-waistband sweat pants, and I'm quite willing to use both.
  6. One thing I wish were still open were the animal shelter. This would have been the perfect time to have adopted a dog, being home all the time.
  7. Thinking about all that juice and all those snacks, and my dwindling (but soon-to-be-replenished) supply of homebrew, I found an old jump rope in the basement. Rolled out my yoga mat in my upstairs home office, and now I'm starting to use it. Turns out, jumping rope is quite difficult and I really suck at it. Still, I hope this can persist into the AQ.
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Going for the Grocery Gold
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My husband is our designated leave-the-house person, which basically means he goes to the grocery store once a week. I’m appreciative, but there’s a trade-off:

He shops like he’s a contestant on Supermarket Sweep.

Brand name everything. Organics. Multiple packages of expensive junk foods that were not on the carefully curated list I gave him. Toiletry and household items that would have cost half as much at the Dollar General. Today, he successfully smashed our family record for most money spent on a single grocery trip.

Granted, prices are a little elevated right now, and it was a stock-up. I probably would have broken the record, too, if I’d gone myself. But he blew it out of the water. Like, he doubled what I normally spend...but did not procure double the groceries.

I was a good sport about it, though. I just ribbed him good-naturedly, while the two of us sat out on the back deck, washing our groceries down with Clorox wipes.

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1. Almost every analysis of the plague progression relies on the number of positive tests and/or the number of deaths. I think these numbers are so unreliable as to be only marginally useful. Many tests give unacceptable high false-negative numbers. Many infected are not getting tested. Many deaths are not being counted. These data may be useful for telling if and when we’re bending the curve in individual countries. But be very cautious of drawing grand conclusions from them.

2. The new blood tests are being touted as a way for people to get back to work once they’ve had it. I don’t put much faith in that right now. Again, the false positive rate is too high. And blood tests are not cheap.

3. We have no idea if chloroquine works. Only three studies have been published and all three are seriously flawed. Unlike Orac, I don't object to a kitchen sink approach in desperate times. But temper your expectations.

4. Social distancing seems to be working in that most of the curves are flattening instead of continuing on an exponential course. But that's not 100% clear yet. The new push for wearing masks will be a force multiplier for it, though.

5. A lot of our strategy hinges on a vaccine being available in 2021. Maybe. But vaccines are tricky things. In the end, our only option may be slowing the pandemic as it kills millions worldwide.

6. The PPE crisis is far more important than the ventilator shortage. Only a small fraction of those who go on ventilators survive. Meanwhile, doctors are being exposed to massive doses of the virus, which may worsen their outcomes.

7. Supply chains are a concern, particularly on food. The problem isn't so much a shortage of food -- although that could become a problem if migrant labor is hit by this. It's that our food supply chains are geared for us eating half of our food in restaurants. I suspect we will adapt. But that probably means buying huge shipments of ground beef instead of individual patties.

8. We haven't even begun to feel the economic pain.

9. The headline is needlessly hysterical, but it's hard to imagine anyone more unqualified for this crisis than Jared Kushner.

10. Despite all of this, I am trying to remain optimistic. We're going into a very rough and dangerous time. But if we keep our heads, we can emerge from it. I won't say we're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel yet. But I will say we're seeing that it is indeed a tunnel and not a bottomless pit.

(I originally stole this bit from Stephen Bainbridge but I don't think the concept is original to him.)

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The torrent of Americans filing for unemployment insurance continued last week as more than 6.6 million new claims were filed, the Labor Department reported Thursday. That brings to 10 million the total Americans who filed over the past two weeks.

Economists surveyed by Dow Jones estimated 3.1 million, a week after 3.3 million filings in the first wave of what has been a record-shattering swelling of the jobless ranks. The previous week’s total was revised higher by 24,000.

On an unadjusted basis, the total was 5.8 million, a number that some economists consider more relevant as seasonal adjustments are less relevant due to the unusual impact the coronavirus-induced shutdown has had on the U.S. economy.

The 4-week moving average, which smooths fluctuations, was 2.054 million, up 327,250 from aw eek ago and the highest since Jan. 14, 2017.

Before the coronavirus shut down major parts of the U.S. economy, the highest week for claims was 695,000 in 1982. The Great Recession high was 665,000 in March 2009.

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“At last we have a deal,” McConnell said. “After days of intense discussion, the Senate has reached a bipartisan agreement on a historic relief package for this pandemic. ... I’m thrilled that we’re finally going to deliver for the country that has been waiting for us to step up.”

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