Name-Calling and Public Policy
Honestly, I’m so, so sick of hearing about the precious feelings of the opponents of same-sex marriage. What if they think I’m a bigot? What if they think I’m mean? What hurtful names will they call me if my personal preferences aren’t enforced by law anymore?
I don’t care about these things. I care about getting public policy right.
Getting public policy right means having a thorough hearing of both sides, in multiple venues, over a decent period of time, with both sides offering as many reasons as they can honestly advance. It also frequently involves one side or the other losing.
It happens that way all the time, and same-sex marriage isn’t new or different that way. You can be very sure that if same-sex marriage loses, gays and lesbians will be called a whole lot of bad names too, because they are already. And they’re used to it. Do you really want to get into a fight about who said what mean things when about whom? Because I think the gays are gonna win that one.
If your biggest fear about a policy change is that your grandchildren may be embarrassed about your political beliefs, maybe your reasons aren’t terribly strong. I’m guessing this happens to all grandparents already, and to more than a few parents, too.
But to protect your precious feelings, families are being broken up and people are being deported today. In all, I’d rather not hurt your feelings, but if I have to subject you to the terrible strain of someone, somewhere saying you’re a bigot, I will. Some things really are more important: