Desire and Deviance, again

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Will

Will writes from Washington, D.C. (well, Arlington, Virginia). You can reach him at willblogcorrespondence at gmail dot com.

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  1. Avatar Jason Kuznicki
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    Saying “I was born this way” isn’t necessarily an expression of shame or inferiority.

    I was also born predisposed to be tall, green-eyed, intelligent, strong-chinned, and totally lacking (as far as I can tell) in food allergies. I wouldn’t say I’m ashamed of any of those things. Most of them I even like.

    But I do think, at least for me, that the disposition toward being gay was inborn. At any rate, it was certainly unchosen. I know this because at one time in my life I would have taken the straight pill too.

    But not anymore. It would wreck the life I’ve built and hurt the people around me tremendously. If there were a choice, I sure as hell wouldn’t choose it.Report

    • Avatar Will in reply to Jason Kuznicki
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      @Jason Kuznicki, So in the nature/nurture debate, do you fall somewhere in the middle (at least with respect to sexual preferences)?Report

      • Avatar Jason Kuznicki in reply to Will
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        @Will,

        I think the jury is still out. All I have are my internal experiences to go on, and I know that that can’t possibly be enough to settle the scientific question (which may, after all, have different answers for different people). Still, my internal experiences are what I have to build a life out of, and I can’t wait for the science to come in. So I’ve built.Report

  2. Avatar Cascadian
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    This was a really good piece. However, it still seems a bit disingenuous. The Kinsey scale seems intuitively correct to me. What’s the problem with sticking to it? Homosexuality may be a choice for many but for me (Jason or the author of the linked piece) it’s not. Sexuality, like religion, may be a choice or may feel like a divine directive. It doesn’t really matter and shouldn’t be subject to political pressure.Report

  3. Even if we agree that sexuality is genetic, does that re-enforce or cancel out the notion that it’s a genetic deviation?Report

  4. Avatar Rufus F.
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    I wonder if the issue isn’t about love more than about sexuality. My own life experience has involved a good deal of “playing for both teams” as it were (wink, wink, nudge, nudge). Anyway, that was the one thing, and the other thing was romantic love. Thus far, I only fall in love with girls. Hence, I’m straight as an arrow. Except for sex. Of course, the real mentality that gays are fighting against, I suspect, is that love doesn’t enter into the discussion at all.Report

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